In Defense of the Quarter Life Crisis (And How To Get To The Other Side)

Quarter Life Crisis Mindy Show

Not knowing where you’re going and what you’re doing isn’t weird or anything to be ashamed of. It’s completely healthy and necessary part of your life. Now, if you already got your five-year plan all figured out, sit tight, I’m going to be talking to you a little later on this month. But if you’re between the ages of 20 and 30 and wondering when life is going to wiggle itself into place, this ones for you. Because a quarter life crisis is nothing to scoff about and, most importantly, it’s nothing to ignore. I would go so far as to say that the quarter-life crisis is a completely necessary part of life. If you’re feeling a crisis coming on, it’s time to think about why that is and start to make plans to remedy that situation. As someone who’s constantly dancing on the edge of aforementioned crisis, here are a few things that keep me grounded.

Be Honest and Breathe

Remember that old saying about admitting you have a problem? Well, folks, sorry to break it to you but it’s monumentally true. Before you can even wrap your brain around getting out of your funk, you need to know what’s making you feel funky. So be extremely (not brutally; be kind to yourself) honest with yourself and where you are in life. What’s making you feel that sense of impending doom? Is it your job, your relationships, your location, or a lack thereof of all of these things? Jot that down in a notebook and take a few moments to reflect on them. However, the whole reflecting part of this process is not a step you want to linger on for too long.

Do What You Want To Do/Trust Your Gut

After you're done writing down what’s bumming you out, it’s time to start making plans on how to change it. This is what is typically referred to as the hard part. Making big life changes like looking for a job, solidifying or breaking relationships, and/or moving are not easy, so don’t expect instant gratification results. But do it anyway and do it for yourself. If you’re in your early 20s and 30s chances are you’ve been following this unspoken socialized guide on how to act, what to do,and when to feel. Your quarter-life crisis might be your subconscious telling you to make life adjustments or I don’t know quit your job and ride a motorcycle across the country.

Do You But Not At The Expense of Others (And Yourself)

Tyra Banks

Speaking of quitting your job and driving across the country, let’s make one thing clear. Your quarter life crisis is not an excuse to treat others and yourself like shit. Taking the time to figure out who you are and what you want is great, but it should not come at the expense of the life that you have already built. So whenever you’re feeling impulsive, go back to your journal and revisit what you wrote down. If what you’re about to do isn’t going to help you then for the love of God, don’t do it. Crises do not last forever so don’t make bad decisions that will.  


Surround Yourself With Positivity and Inspiration

This one is a DJ Khalid inspired #MajorKeyAlert. If you want to make it through this you’re going to need a support group of people who have your back. You’re going to need a dream team of ride or die homies that will listen and be there for you. Personally, I can’t imagine where I would be if it wasn’t for my friends constantly cheering me up and having my back. There’s no way you can heal and grow if the people you surround yourself with are high-key drama magnets. Find friends and mentors that inspire you to do more.

Talk it Out With The Professionals 

I’m going to keep it 100 with you guys, these steps can only take you so far. If you are really down in the dumps, go and get the help that your happiness and peace of mind deserves. Find a mental health professional that you trust and set up an appointment.


BONUS: Just in case that was TLTR here's the general idea...


Things you SHOULD do When You’re Experiencing a Quarter Life Crisis  

  • Volunteer
  • Get some hobbies
  • Write that novel you’ve been meaning to write
  • DIY Spa
  • Hang out with your grandparents (you know, if they’re cool and not mean)
  • Plan a trip
  • Learn new things
  • Declutter your apartment

Things NOT to do When you’re Experiencing a Quarter-life Crisis

  • Alienate your friends
  • Compare yourself to others
  • Go on a two-week bender
  • Go on a two week Netflix Bender
  • Curse out your boss
  • Get a tattoo of your ex’s name
  • Start some petty sh*t
  • Anything and everything illegal
  • Purchase an animal as a placeholder of a relationship
  • Put an ad out for friends on craigslist 

Philadelphia Lifestyle Blogger Sola Onitiri Defends The Quarter Life Crisis





Has the quarter life crisis hit you? Do you need that gif of Tyra yelling at you played on a constant loop? Do you like the little summary I included? Share your thoughts below in that comment section! 

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