12 Ways Rom Coms Have Made Me a Better Person

I’ll admit it, I’m a sucker for romantic comedies. Give me a fun pop song playing in the background as Sandra Bullock rifles through her expertly decorated yet quirky apartment on her way to work, and I’m on the couch for the rest of the day. But the beauty of this genre doesn’t lie in the romance alone. If you watch closely there are dozens of lessons to be learned from your favorite chick flicks. Here are the lessons I’ve learned and the movies that helped me change into the person I am today.

1. My family is loud and important - My Big Fat Greek Wedding (2002)

Just like Toula's, my family is loud, fussy and has weird remedies for emotional and physical pain (I’m going to pass on the Windex). Even if they can’t understand why computers are so important, they still have my back.  

2. I understand the value of education - Legally Blonde (2001)

As women, we’re told that there are certain jobs that are not “suitable” for us and to that I say harness your inner Elle Woods and tell those haters, “What, like it’s hard?” Even if you follow some dudebro to Harvard, stick it out for yourself.

3. I now know that change is necessary and good - Miss Congeniality (2000)

Movies like Miss Congeniality teach you that a finely crafted makeover montage and a snarky Michael Caine can make ALL the difference. Also, looking like a beauty queen doesn’t mean you can’t metaphorically and physically kickass.

4. I don’t have to be perfect - Trainwreck (2015)   


Amy Schumer gives me life and Trainwreck gives me hope that eventually I’m going to get it together and settle down with an adorkable doctor with pro-athlete friends. I just have to give myself a little time and curb some of my bad habits.

5. I don’t judge a book by it’s cover - You Got Mail (1994)

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Kathleen Kelly, played by the incredible Meg Ryan, shows that life and love really isn’t all that it seems. Sometimes, exactly what you’re looking for has been instant messaging and arguing you the whole time.

6. Self-Reflection And High Standards Are Key - Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)

If there’s anything I learned from Bridget Jones is that you shouldn’t settle for a Daniel Cleaver when you can have a Mark Darcy (Even if Daniel Cleaver looks like early 2000s Hugh Grant). Ladies, say it with me “We’re worth it.” But just because we’re worth doesn’t mean there isn’t room for improvement.

7. I can be me and succeed - Working Girl (1988)

You can have a mind for business and a bod for sin. I learned from Tess McGill, that I can rock a slamming body (Well i’m working on it), better myself, and cop that corner office. 

8. Anything they can do I can do better - She’s The Man (2006)

Much to my mom’s dismay, I’ve yet to fully shake off my tomboy phase. I’ve learned that just like Viola, my willingness to try and hang in there with the boys, is exactly the kind of determination that will get me far in life.   

9. I’m a feminist, hear me roar - 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

Julia Stiles taught me that even if a guy is Heath Ledger cute (RIP you angel), he has to accept you for who you are. And who I am is the kind of girl who would be sent to the principle Allison Janney’s office for talking about Feminist Theory.  

10. My friends are ride or die  - John Tucker Must Die (2006)

If you don’t have a group of friends that will intensely Facebook stalk your ex or, I don’t know, publically humiliate and ruin his life, than you need to work on your squad goals. The beauty of John Tucker Must Die is that it proves that us girls can stick together for a good cause, and that cause is ice cold revenge.

11. I’m never growing up - 13 Going on 30 (2004)

Wishing to be “30, flirty, and thriving,” is natural. However, there are some significant cons to being old but adopting a carefree, childlike attitude is the remedy. Sometimes after a long day of adulting, you have to shotgun some pixie sticks and dance around to Thriller.

12. I now realize that the past is the past - The Holiday (2006)

Just like Kate Winslet's character in The Holiday, I have problems letting things go. When it comes to things I love, I’m a stage 5 clinger. But a change of scenery and good supportive friends always help me close the door on past things that have no business in my future.

What are some of your favorite RomComs? What have they taught you? Let me know below or on Facebook and Twitter