Hello from the other side folks - we made it to 2016 and this past year was HUGE. Turtlenecks, fringe, and suede came back into style. Beyonce and Nicki dropped the music video/squad goal inspiration of all time. And everybody was "Netflix and Chill"ing. In fact this year was pretty big for me as well. I turned the tassel and took the ultimate plunge into adulthood, I moved my humble little blog to this domain. And I met, photographed, and interviewed so many awesome people. Yeah folks, this year has been a rollercoaster so, here's what I've learned.
1. Post Grad Life is Fun! (Seriously, no BS)
If you are/were anything like me, despite finals, stress eating, and bad dining hall food, college was a lot of fun. I mean just think about it: Fridays off, free swag available at most school sponsored events, and that sweet sweet student discount. So It's not hard to imagine why I was a little scared to fly the coop. But I can proudly say that I'm now 6 months out and feeling pretty good. I mean comparably, the 9 to 5 grind doesn't hold a candle to free gym memberships and pizza, but I'll take no 20 page papers and weekly brunch over those things any day.
2. But this Adult Thing is Kind of Tricky
Gone are those binge watching, binge eating, disco nap days of college. Because now my life is decidedly more...adult. The time I would usually spend worrying about due dates is not divided equally between taxes, bills, and the dreaded L word. And I don't mean love, I'm talking about loans.
3. An Empty Cup Can't Fill Another
I focused on self care this year and it's probably one of my biggest lesson learned. I have a tendency to take on more than I can handle single handedly. I blame this on my Aries nature, but in 2015 I said no more. I took a look in the mirror and gave myself a stern talking to that probably made me sound a little off to ordinary bystanders. But it helped because being a workaholic perfectionist is NOT a good look. I learned that the first step to taking care of others and taking care of business is first taking care of myself.
4. You May Not Fit In and that's Beautiful
I had the opportunity to work with one of my favorite fashion blogs Qwear. My monthly column consists of interviews and profiles of how queer people of color interact with and "fit into" mainstream fashion. I've been having a blast learning, photographing, and speaking with some of the most fashionable and down to earth people I've ever met. Look out for more interview coming your way soon.
5. The Force is Strong With This One
STAR WARS IS BACK. GUYS. THE FORCE. IS. WOKE. AND I'M FREAKING OUT BECAUSE IT WAS AMAZING. MY REVIEW WILL CONTINUE TO BE IN ALL CAPS BECAUSE JOHN BOYEGA = BAE, DAISY RIDLEY IS INCREDIBLE, OSCAR ISAAC? LITERALLY DROOL WORTHY. IT WAS EVERYTHING I WANTED TO BE AND BETTER. GO SEE IF YOU HAVEN'T BECAUSE I'VE ALREADY SEEN IT TWICE AND I NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT.
6. Black Girls Are Magic
From Zendaya's Barbie, to Viola Davis's Emmy speech, this year has proved (several times over) that black girls are magic. And as someone who write extensively about the media and representation, I can't stress how important it is for black girls and boys to see amazing role models on the big screen. This year, millions of black children got the chance to see people who looked like them change the world, and that's truly magical.
7. Squad Goals
I have a feeling that saying squad goals is no longer hip (Thanks Taylor) but I would wrong if I didn't give a shout out to all of my friends who continue to inspire me everyday. You are all truly my squad goals - now and forever.
8. I'm Not a Personal Style Blogger
This year I had the chance to take some street style shots at New York Fashion Week. That weekend I took awesome pictures, met awesome people, and had an awesome epiphany: I am not and will never be a personal style blogger. Phew, feels good to say that again.
9. (Not) OkCupid
I had a lot of time to reflect on the pros and cons of online dating this year and I don't think I've made any progress. I mean, Tinder and OkCupid are so weird right? Maybe I'm doing it wrong (I'm totally doing it wrong) but, with the help of a few friends, I was at least about to narrow down exactly what we're NOT looking for. The result is a hilarious list of Why We're Swiping Left.
10. Things Fall Apart and That's Ok.
The biggest takeaway from 2015 is the following: failure is completely and totally acceptable and needed. 2015 was a great year, but it had it's trials. But I know that those hardships made me a better and happier person. I learned that a large part of self care and happiness was letting go of some people and letting go of certain situations. I'm so grateful for those lessons and for the opportunity to apply them to a brand new year.
What are some of your 2015 Takeaways? Are You ready for 2016? HAVE YOU SEEN STAR WARS! Let me know below or on Twitter!